This blog is a place for me to collect my memories, thoughts and experiences of life as an Introvert Sigma.

I've always been hesitant to put labels on myself as I'm conscious that it can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. But after many years of improving my social skills, developing in my career and pushing out of my comfort zone, at the core I think my personality has not changed much.

I'm not saying that much credence should be given to online personality tests but I always score as a strong INTJ no matter what kinds of 'extroverted' skills I acquire or experiences I gather.

So that's where 'Introvert' comes from.

'Sigma' is used in the world of men's dating advice to describe the loner that stands outside of the traditional hierarchy. If the Alpha is the captain of the football team then the Sigma is the James Dean character. The rebel who does what he wants and doesn't care to be a leader. For me this doesn't just apply to dating and relationships. It applies to the worlds of art and business as well.

It's a romantic idea, and I know many people use it as an excuse to not engage with life. But I've made this archetype work for me to an extent. Through trial and error I discovered that things that were often seen as flaws were in fact my greatest strengths. I've noticed in the past couple of years that others are discovering this as well which is how the term Sigma came to be used.

I've gone through some big life changes recently and I'm diving back into the world of men's self-improvement. I want to document my experiences for the benefit of other people who occupy this niche way of being.

I'm in a unique position where I have already experienced lots of personal growth and have much to teach but also have the mindset of a beginner open to (re)learning.


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