Friday night at a local bar
Today was a long day and I was secretly glad it had been raining a lot because I was quite tired and it was good excuse for me to stay in. After dinner I took a nap but when I woke up at 9pm I noticed it was dry outside.
I decided to head out to a local bar that usually has live music to see what was going on. It's not far from where I live so was worth checking out.
Inside there were a fair number of people and a band was indeed playing. As I mentioned before I feel so much better about being in a venue on my own if there's a reason to be there besides drinking. I know this is a limiting belief and something I pushed beyond in the past. But I'm just being honest about where I'm at now.
I approached three different groups of girls. Pretty much all there were except for one very good looking brunette who seemed to be with one of the band members.
I opened each of them with a situational comment but while the conversations where good it was not easy to speak while the bands were performing.
One interaction was a bit better. I saw two girls sitting at a table in a side room and when one of them left I went over and started talking to the one that remained. When the friend got back I sat down with them and we had a fun conversation.
But it was just a friendly vibe, I didn't escalate on the one I thought was attractive and forgot to do my IG close. They left to go home after about 10 minutes.
I stuck around to watch the other bands and left after the show finished.
It's good to be getting out and used to approaching again but I'm not 100% sure if my intent is in the right place. I could be overt in my intentions and escalate things but a big part of me wants to take things slower and get to know people first. I genuinely want to make more friends as well which might be making me come across incongruent.
Tomorrow I'll go to a club and focus purely on escalating and pulling home.